这部电影讲的是一个智商只有七岁的爸爸在一次意外情况下失去了自己女儿的抚养权，他在世人的偏见下靠着朋友和律师的支持争夺回自己的抚养权的故事 也许是因为自身没有经历过这种直直白白的父爱，所以很多幕场景都牵动着我的心 在Sam下了班急着去看自己刚出生的女儿时，他数着电梯到达的每一层 他和Lucy被他收留的女人抛弃了 他抱着孩子在街边的无奈 one way的路牌 却暗示着这他们父女俩的无处可去 他想给女儿买双鞋 但是却缺了10多美元 于是他的朋友（和他一样也是弱智）就一起凑钱 售货员的眼睛里都充满泪水 最后他们还单纯的为能拿到气球开心 Sam的律师Rita由原先的不情愿为Sam当律师到被Sam感动 努力帮助Sam争取抚养权 影片中多次拍摄 那种身为父亲可是因为自己对事物的理解力不够，不能用语言表达自己的无奈，那种无奈的眼神 看的本宝宝真是 看到一次就哗哗的落泪 影片中Sam因经历了一次又一次的失败，给自己建立了一面可以算是看了都觉得marvelous的纸墙 他说 I tried，I tried hard! But you don’t know what it’s like when you try and you try and you try and you don’t ever get there. Because you were born perfect, and I was born like this! And people like you don’t know, you don’t know what it’s like to get hurted , because you don’t have feelings. People like you don’t feel anything. 那般的歇斯底里 真的不是用我苍白的语言能描述的 结局是总是好的 以最后Lucy球赛的胜利来暗示Sam争夺到抚养权的胜利
男主在律师家时好好地教育了律师一番：You’re so lucky.You get to play with Willy any time you want.He doesn’t want to play with me.Yes,he does.Yes,he does.He does.He thinks you don’t want to play,maybe.That’s ridiculous.Of course I do.为人父母，很多很都不知道如何做好一个好父亲，好母亲，在这部片子中，我们能得到很好的答案。小孩不会不喜欢你，只是你觉着他不喜欢你，你表现出你尊重他，你爱他，你喜欢和他一起玩，他就会离不开你，其实你才是他们心中最坚实的依靠。男主的真诚深深打动了律师，在他换上西装时，甚至深深被他的魅力迷住了！
Lucy被带走时，电影近乎是无声的，台词全都没显示出来，浓浓地渲染了离别的凄凉，律师在旁边都没感动的哭了。男主近乎崩溃，一个人游走在黑夜的大街上。之后有一次偷偷去看过Lucy，却不敢见她。然后就是一个人默默地把自己关在屋里，谁都不理会，陷入了自闭。Yeah,but I tried! I tried hard! You don’t know what it’s like when you try...and you try and you try and you don’t ever get there! Because you were born perfect,and I was born like this! People like you don’t know what it’s like to get hurted...because yo don’t have feelings.任何人，在极度受挫的情况下，都会把情绪宣泄给别人，怨天尤人，抱怨身边所有的不公，这时，他需要有人拉他一把！
最后律师说：I worry that I’ve gotten more out of this relationship than you.其实在他们相处的过程中，律师确实帮助了男主很多，而律师从他那也学会了很多。每个人，都可以成为别人的老师，在这段关系中，律师从男主身上学到了很多她一直没有想明白的，却是很简单的事。有时，我们忙于各种思考，却忘了很多时候，我们只需要作出一个最简单的决定。
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Sam:Yeah, but I tried! I tried hard!
Sam:Yeah, but you don't know!
You don't know what it's like when you try and you try and you try and you don't ever get there!
Because you were born perfect, and I was born like this! And you're perfect!
Rita:Is that right?
Sam:You don't know what it's like to get hurted.. because you don't have feelings. People like you don't feel anything.
Rita:You think you got the market cornered on human suffering?
Let me tell you something about people like me.
People like me feel lost and little and ugly.. and dispensable.
People like me have husbands..screwing someone else far more perfect than me.
People like me have sons who hate them.
And I've screamed horrible things to him..a seven-year-old, because he doesn't want..to get in the car at the end of the day.
And then he looks at me with such anger..and i hate him then.
I know I'm failing you. I know I'm disappointing you. I know you deserver better, but get in the fucking car!
Every morning, I wake up and i fail. And I look around, and everybody seems to be pulling it off..but somehow I can't..no matter how hard I try.
Somehow..I'll never be enough.
Sam:You're enough. Yeah, you're much more than enough.Lovely Rita.
- lead by example以身作则
1.Tell them what you're going to tell them.→2.Tell them.→3.Tell them what you've told them.
Everybody behave Like a gentleman..because Lucy's gonna come out here..and first impressions are very important. Lucy:You never even came! You never called! You forgot about me! How coule you forget me? Sam:No, I didn't forget you! I would never forget you! -I hate you! Sam:Will you not be mad at me for one second? Because I want to tell you one thing, OK? "P.s. I love you, like in the song"
SUGGESTION Ⅰ：always be present
I have always tried to be present for you regardless of how old you were, where we were, or where I was. I wanted you to know that I am always there for you spiritually, emotionally and digitally. You never need feel** isolated** or alone. You know I am on 24/7 for advice, love, or just to share a funny filtered photo, bitmoji or laugh (even though I know I laugh inside).
Being fully present, by listening, feeling, empathizing—always holding serious eye contact, and often the touch of a hand—builds trust. Trust builds confidence and confidence enables you to look forward, dream more and focus on others vs. yourself. Being present is the greatest gift you can give another person, and the greatest way to more closely connect with them. When you are present, you are living in the moment vs in your mind. You are seeing, hearing, and feeling another person, and together you are even more empowered to do great things. This is a gift that often comes more naturally to women.
- navigate ['nævɪgeɪt]驾驶：~your incredible life journey.
- isolated ['aɪsəleɪtɪd]隔离的
Sam:But you still need to leave your husband.
Rita: My marriage isn't so bad.
It't just that..I've never lost at anything.
SUGGESTION Ⅱ：read the signs
I have also tried to share with you as many of life's precious lessons and secrets as I can so that when I am not here, you have a solid foundation of learnings and values regardless of what potholes in life you may hit along the way. Stay open; always try to read the signs as you pass by them or they pass by you. I've often reminded you that there are no coincidences. Everything that happens in your life is for a reason or was predestined. Every book you receive, every new person you meet, everything you call lucky is a sign just waiting to be read. It is** tough** when you are young and so** inward-focused, but once in a while you will look back, make the connection and then be more open to and curious about those signs in the future. You see, signs aren't blatant or obvious. You have to be open and present to instinctively feel them. You are blessed as sensitive** women to more naturally understand this.
- solid foundation ['sɒlɪd]固体的，坚固的基础
- potholes ['pɒthəʊl]坑
- along the way一路上
- curious['kjʊərɪəs] obvious['ɒbvɪəs]
It's number nine. And number nine is like October 9..when John Lennon was born and his son was born on October 9, too. John met Yoko on November 9. Yeah, and his mother lived..at number nine Newcastle in Liverpool. Newcastle, nine letters. Liverpool, nine letters.
SUGGESTION Ⅲ：stay in your lane
You are fully aware of how blessed you are, the incredible gifts you were born with that your brother doesn't have and the gifts he has that you don't possess. You know how happy you feel when you are doing what you love and that comes so easily and naturally to you. So please, please, please connect to your passion, and then just stay in your lane. Great athletes, musicians, scientists, etc., all have anexpertise that they focus on and perfect.
Don't let anyone persuade you to do anything that doesn't feel natural or isn't aligned with your values or God-given gifts. You know what excites you more than anyone else. The sooner you recognize your passions, and the more you focus, the happier you will be and the greater success you will achieve. Still, don’t worry if you don’t know exactly what your lane is yet. The path will illuminate itself so long as you stay present, open to the signs, and follow your passions. It’s all related.
- be aware of意识到[ə'weə]
- stay in your lane车道[leɪn]
- excite刺激[ɪk'saɪt; ek-]
- etc.[ɪt'setərə, et-]
Sometimes if you rub her belly..and then if you tell her two stories..and give her half an IHOP corn muffin..then sometimes she sleeps.
SUGGESTION Ⅳ：never back up more than you have to
Lastly, my loves, never back up more than you need to, and this means in life, not just when driving. Just as you are blind to what's behind you while backing up a car, if you keep looking back in life and focusing too much on the past, you may find yourself running things over and over in your mind, often seeing or creating things that never existed in the first place. Even worse, living in reverse blinds you to what lies ahead: Your lifelong dreams waiting to be achieved, your destiny waiting to be fulfilled.
祝愿每一个想成为better me 的人都可以成为better me！
I have to apologize to you..Sam because I was gonna tell that judge..that I could give Lucy the kind of love she never had.
Sam:I hope you're saying what I think you're saying.
I think you're the red in her painting.
Rita: Now, Ms. Cossell, in all the time that you've known them, have you
ever questioned Sam's ability as a father?
Annie: Never. Look at Lucy. She's strong. She displays true empathy for people, all kinds of people. I know that you all think she's as smart as she is despite him, but it's because of him.
Rita: So what you're saying is you don't worry about Lucy's future?
Annie: No, I do.
Annie: I worry all the time. I worry if they take Lucy away from her father they will take away an enormous piece of her, and I worry that she will spend the rest of her life trying to fill that hole.
Sam: OK, remember when Paul McCartney wrote the song "Michelle" and then he only wrote the first part, Annie said. And then he gave that part to John Lennon, and he wrote the part that said, "I love you, I love you, I love you." And Annie said that it wouldn't have been the same song without that... and that's why the whole world cried when the Beatles broke up on April 10, 1970.